Saturday, March 23, 2024

The stuff of life...

It's been busy here. Most of it good busy, or at least merely the stuff of life.  The stuff that can be tedious and time consuming, but basically innocuous.  

I now consider myself officially a senior citizen.  Turning 65 next month, I had signed up for Medicare in January, and just last week finally got signed up for my medigap (supplemental) insurance.  It feels like I have stuff to say about that, that I think could be helpful to a newby such as myself.  But the main thing I feel compelled to note here is that I am old.  

No offense meant to those of you older than me.  Getting older is the best earthly option we have, so there is no point in complaining.  I'm happy with the tribe that is mine.

A busy week topped off nicely last night with new(ish) friends joining us for dinner at our place.  About a half hour before they arrived it occurred to me to cut some daffodills from the side yard for the table.  These flowers are planted in a spot where I can't see them easily from the house, and since they'd been in bloom for over a week, I figured I might as well bring some inside and enjoy them for a few days.


After cutting a bouquet's worth, I was surprised their absence was barely noticeable in the clump of flowers left behind.  I made a mental note to do this earlier next year. 
It seems to me growing flowers outside should come with the added perk of bringing some inside to enjoy.

And then, to make the evening even more special, our guests brought a beautiful bouquet of flowers.  


Two bouquets!  I had a quick flashback to last summer when I was healing from surgery and for weeks I enjoyed fresh flowers from friends. I have learned to appreciate the wonderful benefits of fresh cut flowers.

For supper, I made lasagna. In truth, it wasn't the best I've ever made, but it wasn't so bad that I felt I should apologize.  It was that awkward level of not-my-best, where the guests have no idea that I've made better, but for me to say anything about it would just make everyone uncomfortable and feel like they have to assure me it's delicious - which I would find humiliating.  There was no way around it but to just kept my thoughts to myself and accept that they'll never know I've made (and probably will make) better.  

I'm happy to say my less-than-stellar lasagna did not stop the conversation from flowing.   We talked non-stop from the minute our guests arrived at 5:30 'till they finally decided they were whipped shortly after 9:00.  While they are our age, they are working folk; we're retired and relaxed, so they naturally wore out before we did.  That said, I got a charlie horse in the back of my leg about the time one of them said she was starting to fade.  Jumping out of my chair, I grabbed my leg, trying to quickly figure out how to get the spasming to stop.  No movement or stretch I made standing there helped, so seconds later I excused myself saying  "I'm so sorry, I think I've just gotta walk this off".  

Like a limping horse out of a paddock, I left the room, circled the kitchen island, then limped into the laundry room, torn between laughing with embarrassment and crying from pain.  What a sight I must have been - bolting to my feet in the dining room and taking off like I did.   The others, acting like it was the most normal thing in the world (bless them), gathered what remained of the dishes and took them into the kitchen.  Then they put their coats on and we said a fairly quick goodbye at the front door.  As they were walking to their vehicle in the driveway, my leg finally relaxed.  I called out to tell them my leg settled down and I was fine - not even sure if they could hear me.

What a ridiculous ending to their first evening at our house.  On the positive side, I suppose we now have a funny story between us.  I just wish it wasn't at the expense of my pride.






18 comments:

  1. That sounds like a very good evening. Lasagna, too. I'd almost graduated uni when you were born! Planning to marry, emigrate,all kinds of plans. Your plans at the time probably mainly involved milk!
    Anyway, you're all ready to enjoy whatever's next.

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    1. It doesn't seem like there's that much of a difference in our ages when I read your blog, Liz. It's interesting (and nice) that the older we get, the less age matters.

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  2. Enjoyed your post today, Becki. The flowers are gorgeous. And I agree, if one is growing them outdoors, there should always be the perk of bringing bouquets indoors to enjoy as well. I have tended to worry when entertaining about whether it's my best cooking on display or just okay (it's never a real disaster). I learned from watching my younger sister, who just presented her dishes without ever seeming to fret if it was perfect or not. I started to model her more relaxed sense of entertaining (she is an awesome hostess and makes people feel welcome and at home). Happy Saturday, Becki. PS. Happy 65th when it arrives!

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    1. Brenda, that is so wise. I knew voicing my thoughts about the lasagna would not have produced an atmosphere I wanted, so I hope not saying anything about it conveyed just such a relaxed attitude as you describe your sister's style. All people want is to feel welcomed and comfortable. Delicious food is nice, but the thing people are going to remember is if they felt comfortable.

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  3. I missed many of our spring flowers blooming because of rain. But that's okay. I have plenty of weed flowers to look at now. :)
    Glad your evening pretty much went well. :)
    Be safe and God bless.

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    1. Oh Linda, the weeds on the side on the side of the house we worked so hard on last spring are just terrible right now. At least we don't have to remove bricks, and dead shrubs this year. I groan every time I look at it, though. We should have put plastic down under the mulch. Or maybe just used more mulch.

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  4. Both bouquets are beautiful. Sounds like a fabulous evening. Until Charlie the Horse showed up. I was excited to get my Medicare insurance. Kind of like a rite of passage.

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    1. Marsha, I am just amazed at how much less expensive Medicare and Medigap insurance are going to be compared to the "affordable" health care insurance I've bought off the Marketplace the last three years. I'm so glad to be done (for now and the foreseeable future) with high premiums AND high deductibles.

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  5. Oh dear, a spasm can be very painful. A nice dinner with new friends. leaving when you have a leg spasm is a night to remember.
    The flowers are beautiful. It is very thoughtful of them to bring a bouquet.

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    1. May, while it was painful for the moment, I was glad the spasm didn't turn into something more long lasting. I don't get them all that often, but at least once I've spasmed to the point of injuring muscle, and that is just awful.

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  6. What beautiful bouquets! The daffodils are such a breath of spring. We got about 20" or more of snow here yesterday, so it seems it'll be awhile before we see daffodils. My daughter did have snowdrops at her house about 15 minutes from here, but they got 22" of snow there.

    I understand about the lasagna. But you are so right that there was nothing you could say. I'm sure they enjoyed it tremendously, and the fellowship was best of all. Bravo to you for inviting company! And yes, now you have a funny story between you, even though leg cramps are far from humorous while they're happening.

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    1. Wow! That's a lot of snow, Mrs. T! After last year, and so many weeks through the second part of the year trying to be smart about exposure to germs and viruses because of my low immunity, we're both ready to do some hosting. It feels good to feel good. :)

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  7. What a great storyteller you are! I'm smiling still. Those flowers are lovely.

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  8. If you could like in the middle of that spasm/cramp/whatever it was, you are a better person than I. I get them at night, as I sleep, and I scream! Fortunately, they are few and far between. I'm guessing your lasagna was delicious. My sweet wife, who is an excellent cook, often says she doesn't like something when she makes it, even when guests rave about it. I'm about 18 months ahead of you in age, but I still have insurance at work, so I'm hold on Medicare.

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    1. Bob, I'm pretty sure I at least "whelped" or cried out a bit of an "OW!" when the spasm took hold. It's hard to maintain much dignity when a cramp strikes, but I tried. Night time leg cramps are the worse. I've been woken up by them at night and yes, I cry out (waking hubs) as I try to bolt out of bed into a standing position. Leg cramps bring a lot of drama for a moment.

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  9. I must admit I've never been one to be bothered by ageing and those supposedly 'significant' birthdays are just another day. At least they have been so far, but I'm rapidly staring down 70 and who knows, perhaps it will be cause for bother.
    You're going to think this is an old wive's tale and perhaps it is, but....we each keep a bar of soap at the foot of our bed and if we get a cramp in the middle of the night it really helps. That, and remembering to drink lots of water.

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  10. Your flowers are beautiful-both bouquets. I know exactly what your leg cramp feels like! I have to walk them out too!

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